Sometimes You Just Need to Set Goals and Take Chances

Dear Friends,

Welcome back to the school year…and cold season! It has arrived early this year, at least in my house. School began a week ago today, and by this past Monday Logan already had a cold! I can’t seem to come within 10 miles of cold germs and not catch it…so it’s honestly a miracle that I’m not sick yet. I’m crossing my fingers hard that I won’t end up sick, especially with the weekend right around the corner and some potential Saturday night plans on the horizon!

It has been an interesting week full of routine, momming, catching up on sleep, and even a surprise or two. I’ll be totally straight with you right now and tell you that I have no idea what to even write about today. But…over the summer I slipped from my routine and fell out of the habit of consistently posting two blog posts per week, and I’m trying to change that. My goal has always been to post on Mondays and Thursdays, so this post is simply me trying to stick to my deadlines and meet my goals.

Speaking of goals, I used to always set goals for myself for each week, and this week I brought those back. Some are simple, like hitting the elliptical three times this week or spending at least one evening down by the river with my kiddos. Others are tougher to come by, like my goal for this week to meet at least one new person. I’ve actually succeeded in making that goal, so I’m feeling pretty on top of things!

This is something that I just started doing last year, and I find that it helps me to accomplish things that I otherwise might not. I love checklists and make them a lot to stay on task at work. So I started adopting this same habit at home. When things start getting busy, I will schedule out my evenings to make sure I’m getting everything done. And by setting weekly goals I have something to work towards and end the week with a sense of accomplishment. It keeps me from sitting around and getting complacent with life. That’s why I really like to add at least one thing that will get me outside of my comfort zone.

Something I used to never be good at was going out by myself. I was able to kick that fear in the butt by setting it as a goal. I kept reading it on my list, with a big unchecked box next to it. I didn’t want to finish the week without checking it off, so that weekend I pushed myself to do it. All I needed was something to occupy my time so I wasn’t just sitting there staring at the walls. So I took my laptop and school books, and went down to the local coffee shop (which has now been replaced by my favorite new brewery), and sat for a few hours getting some work done.

And do you know what happened that day? I met someone who was also there for a couple of hours working on stuff. He started chatting with me, and then invited me across the street for a drink afterwards. He certainly wasn’t a soul mate. But it was great encouragement to put myself out there and be less afraid of going places alone. Now I have no problem going out somewhere just to grab a drink or a cup of coffee and read for a while. In fact, over the summer while the boys were gone, I headed down to the river about once a week all by myself to read and listen to music on Spotify. Now I almost feel like something is off kilter if I don’t do that!

So I guess goal setting does two things for me–it gives me a sense of accomplishment, and it forces me to take chances I wouldn’t otherwise take. Taking chances is always a little risky. Sometimes it goes horribly and you end up disappointed. But sometimes…sometimes it goes better than you could ever have imagined. And really, all it takes is one time, one risk gone right, to change everything. One of the best things we can do for ourselves in life is take a walk outside of our comfort zones once in a while. That truly is where life begins.

Until next time, my friends…

Love,
Loren

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